Wednesday, April 1, 2009

The Rules of Attraction in the Game of Love

o figure out how we pick mates, scientists have measured every shape and angle of the human face, studied the symmetry of dancers, crafted formulas from the measurements of Playboy models, and had both men and women rank attractiveness based on smelling armpit sweat.

After all this and more, the rules of attraction for the human species are still not clearly understood. How it all factors into true love is even more mysterious.

But a short list of scientific rules for the game of love is emerging. Some are as clearly defined as the prominent, feminine eyes of a supermodel or the desirable hips of a well-built man. Other rules work at the subconscious level, motivating us to action for evolutionary reasons that are tucked inside clouds of infatuation.

In the end, lasting love depends at least as much on behavior as biology. But the first moves are made before you're even born.

Symmetry equals sex

Starting at conception, the human body develops by neatly splitting cells. If every division were to go perfectly, the result would be a baby whose left and right sides are mirror images. But nature doesn't work that way. Genetic mutations and environmental pressures skew symmetry, and the results have lifelong implications.

Good symmetry shows that an individual has the genetic goods to survive development, is healthy, and is a good and fertile choice for mating.

"It makes sense to use symmetry variation in mate choice," said evolutionary biologist Randy Thornhill of the University of New Mexico. "If you choose a perfectly symmetrical partner and reproduce with them, your offspring will have a better chance of being symmetric and able to deal with perturbations."

Thornhill has been studying symmetry for 15 years and scanned faces and bodies into computers to determine symmetry ratios. Both men and women rated symmetrical members of the opposite sex as more attractive and in better health than their less symmetrical counterparts. The differences can be just a few percent—perceivable though not necessarily noticeable.

By questioning the study participants, Thornhill also found that men with higher degrees of symmetry enjoy more sexual partners than men of lower symmetry.

"Women's sex-partner numbers are dependent on things other than attractiveness," Thornhill told LiveScience. "Because of the way that the sexual system in humans works, women are choosey. They are being sexually competed for. They have to be wooed and all that."

Those hips

Body shape is of course important, too. And scientists have some numbers to prove it. Psychologist Devendra Singh of the University of Texas studied people's waist-to-hip ratio (WHR).

Women with a WHR of 0.7—indicating a waist significantly narrower than the hips—are most desirable to men.

And an analysis of hourglass figures of Playboy models and Miss America contestants showed that the majority of these women boast a WHR of 0.7 or lower.

In general, a range of 0.67 to 1.18 in females is attractive to men, Singh concluded in a 2004 study, while a 0.8 to 1.0 WHR in men is attractive to women, although having broad shoulders is more of a turn-on.

What exactly is encoded in the hip ratio? A big fat clue to whether the person will have enough energy to care for offspring.

Where fat is deposited on the body is determined by sex hormones; testosterone in men and estrogen in women. If a woman produces the proper amount and mixture of estrogen, then her WHR will naturally fall into the desired range. The same goes for a male's testosterone.

People in the ideal hip-ratio range, regardless of weight, are less susceptible to disease such as cardiovascular disorders, cancer, and diabetes, studies have shown. Women in this range also have less difficulty conceiving.

"The idea is that beauty is conveying information about health and fertility, and we admire that," Singh said in a telephone interview.

Face it

The structure of a person's face also gives insight to fertility.

Estrogen caps bone growth in a woman's lower face and chin, making them relatively small and short, as well as the brow, allowing for her eyes to appear prominent, Thornhill explained. Men's faces are shaped by testosterone, which helps develop a larger lower face and jaw and a prominent brow.

Men and women possessing these traits are seen as attractive, Thornhill said, because they advertise reproductive health.

Thornhill also points to the booming nip-‘n'-tuck business—which is very much about improving a person's symmetry—as evidence that people find the quality attractive.

Another recent study revealed that symmetrical dancers are seen as more attractive.


Research reported last month found women both smell and look more attractive to men at certain times of the month.


And symmetrical men smell better.

Sniff this

Borrowing sweaty undershirts from a variety of men, Thornhill offered the shirts to the noses of women, asking for their impressions of the scents. Hands down, the women found the scent of a symmetrical man to be more attractive and desirable, especially if the woman was menstruating.


By now you might be wondering how much of this we're consciously aware of. The rules of attraction, it turns out, seem sometimes to play out in our subconscious.


In some cases, women in Thornhill's study reported not smelling anything on a shirt, yet still said they were attracted to it.


"We think the detection of these types of scent is way outside consciousness," Thornhill said.


A 2002 study found women prefer the scent of men with genes somewhat similar to their own over the scent of nearly genetically identical or totally dissimilar men.


These subconscious scents might be related to pheromones, chemical signals produced by the body to communicate reproductive quality. The human genome contains more than 1,000 olfactory genes—compared to approximately 300 genes for photoreceptors in the eyes—so pheromones have received a lot of attention from basic research scientists as well as perfume manufacturers.


But the role of pheromones in the human realm remains controversial.

ex goes visual

Pheromones, like other scents, hitch a ride through the air on other particles, such as water droplets. They generally hover just 10 inches off the ground, however. So odds are slim they'll waft up to a human nose and fuel sudden passion at a nightclub.

Watch any construction worker whistling at a passing woman from half a block away, and you can see how visual cues can be more powerful.

And while they enter the nose like other scents, that's where the comparison stops. A pheromone's destination is a special organ called the volmeronasal organ, which humans now lack. From here the sexy scent travels along a neural pathway to the brain separate from other scents.

Evolution played a role in this, too.

After our ancestors began to see color, a gene important in the pheromone-signaling pathway suffered a deleterious mutation, making it impossible for the scent signals to reach the brain, Zhang said. Imagine a train, leaving from Los Angeles to New York, discovers that the tracks in St. Louis are destroyed.

Although the classical pheromone pathway in both Old World primates and humans is dysfunctional, the mechanism for producing pheromones still works. Some scientists believe human pheromones might be influencing our decisions along the normal olfactory pathway.

Lasting relationships

The rules of attraction might drive our initial decisions, for better or worse. But lasting relationships are about much more than what we see and smell.

Behavior plays a key role, with biology an intriguing contributing factor.

One of the oldest theories about attraction is that like begets like. It explains that eerie perception that married couples sometimes look awfully similar.

Last year, J. Philippe Rushton, a psychologist at the University of Western Ontario, looked into the relationships of people's genes. Based on a set of heritable personality traits, having similar genetics plays 34 percent of the role in friendship and mate selection, he found.

"The main theory is that some genes work well in combination with each other," Rushton told LiveScience. "If these genes evolved to work in combination, then you don't want to break that up too much for your offspring. Finding a mate with similar genes will help you ensure this."

If your spouse is genetically similar, you're more likely to have a happy marriage, for example. Child abuse rates are lower when similarity is high, and you'll also be more altruistic and willing to sacrifice more for someone who is more genetically like you, research shows.

It probably comes as little surprise people are drawn to individuals with similar attitudes and values, as psychologist Eva Klohnen at the University of Iowa found in a 2005 study of newlywed couples. These characteristics are highly visible and accessible to others and can play a role in initial attraction.

When it comes to sticking together for the long haul, researchers have shown that likeness of personality, which can take more time to realize, means more.

Comedy can also help a relationship. But the importance of humor is different for men and women, says Eric Bressler of McMaster University.

A woman is attracted to a man who makes her laugh, Bressler found in a 2005 study. A man likes a woman who laughs at his jokes.

True love

Somewhere amid attraction and sex, we all hope, are strong feelings of love. But which of all the motivations really drives us?

Interestingly, brain scans in people who'd recently fallen in love reveal more activity related to love than sex. "Romantic love is one of the most powerful of all human experiences," says Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University. "It is definitely more powerful than the sex drive."

The rules of attraction make up a pretty long list. No scientist knows the order of the list. But near the top is perhaps one of the toughest characteristics to gauge in advance in the search for the perfect partner.

Despite all their differences, men and women place high value on one trait: fidelity.

Cornell University's Stephen Emlen and colleagues asked nearly 1,000 people age 18 to 24 to rank several attributes, including physical attractiveness, health, social status, ambition, and faithfulness, on a desirability scale.

People who rated themselves favorably as long-term partners were more particular about the attributes of potential mates. After fidelity, the most important attributes were physical appearance, family commitment, and wealth and status.

"Good parenting, devotion, and sexual fidelity—that's what people say they're looking for in a long-term relationship," Emlen says.

How to Attract A Woman

The Best Ways to Handle Physical Contact By Tiffany Taylor

Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital component of seduction. You can't successfully pick-up a girl without first establishing a basic level of mutual tactility - I.E. Before you can move in for the kill by kissing and/or sleeping with her, you MUST first have a regular, healthy amount of touching that works both ways: she flirtatiously puts her hand on your knee, you encircle her waist with your arm and pull her a little closer - whatever form the physical contact takes, it has to be present for you to achieve your final goal of actual seduction. And that right there is where the problem for many men lies: how can a guy get the ball rolling when it comes to tactility and physical closeness? If the girl's not being tactile, how can a guy develop mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or scaring her away?

Often men just "go for it" and consequently end up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of their rushed attempt at physical closeness. Other men decide they don't want to risk putting a girl off, so hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact - doing so usually sends out the wrong message, that the guy is either not interested in the girl, or that he's simply too timid to show it, neither of which are attractive scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so what's the solution to this awkward problem?

Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girl (and therefore don't appear uncalled for or rushed) but at the same time clearly indicate that you're a confident guy who's not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let's take a look.
1. Many men think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that's simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something. The outside of a woman's arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to feel strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it's a clear-cut sign that you're a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don't be afraid to give it a try - you'll notice the benefits immediately.

2. Once you've started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, it's important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you've already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction. You can use something called 'Stealth Tactility' to do this. Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom but doesn't know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swivelling both of your bodies round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or obstacles with your other hand to where she needs to go.

3. Lastly, always try to use a 'contact close' when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss. Many men think that the hard work's been done once something's been arranged for a later date, but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again.
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Saturday, March 14, 2009

Exeter Attractions: Things To See And Do In Exeter

The city of Exeter is located in the heart of the county of
Devon in England and has numerous different attractions that you
can enjoy during a stay to it.

As well as Exeter attractions, because the city is centrally
located to reach many of the other attractions the county of
Devon has to offer.

In fact, there are numerous attractions, which will provide you
with a really great day out. There are stately homes, adventure
parks, castles and gardens which can be enjoyed by all and which
will keep everyone on holiday amused. As for Exeter itself, it
has some great leisure and shopping facilities available to
those who just want to spend sometime relaxing.

The city of Exeter is more than 2,000 years old and has some
extremely interesting architecture that one may want to view.
Also throughout the year, the city holds numerous different
events from arts festivals, to open air theatres to live
concerts. But if you want to try some of the local delicacies,
it is worth your time visiting, the food markets that regularly
happen in the city as well.

As mentioned, there is over 2,000 years of history in this city
so why not spend some time exploring what the city has to offer.
There is the city wall which was built by the Roman's and if you
want to spend sometime down in its underground passages. Some of
these passages actually date back to medieval times and were
originally built in order to bring fresh water into the city.

Other attractions that will certainly keep you and your family
amused during your stay in Exeter include the Royal Albert
Memorial Museum and Art Gallery that is located in the Central
Library. It is to be found situated right next to the children's
section and displays a range of objects from the history of the
city for you to view. Plus whilst there you and your children
can take part in some of the gallery activities that are
arranged.

However if you would like to see a little more of the
countryside that surrounds the city of Exeter then take a trip
out to Powderham Castle. This is over 600 years old and you will
find something here that will keep your family amused no matter
what age they are. If you want, why not spend sometime touring
the interior of the castle, where you will find guides who will
help to bring the history of this building to life once more.

As you can see, there are many Exeter attractions that one can
visit during a stay to this vibrant but historic city. So before
going why not take a look online and see what other attractions,
you may want to visit during your stay in Exeter.

There are plenty of different places to stay when you visit
Exeter, ranging from small, friendly bed and breakfasts and
guest houses through to larger hotels. You can choose to stay
somewhere central or maybe you'd prefer the tranquil surrounding
countryside.


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How to Become a Deliberate Creator

Anyone can become a deliberate creator, able to manifest in
their universe what they need at the time that they need it.
That sounds like a totally mind-blowing statement, but once you
understand The Law of Attraction it really is not. We are all
attracting people, things and situations through our thoughts,
actions and beliefs. By becoming conscious of your thoughts you
focus your intent and are able to become a deliberate creator.

Becoming a deliberate creator begins with intent. Intent is a
fancy word simply for focus and your thoughts. So if your
thought is "I would like a coffee" then you need to focus your
entire being on this thought of wanting a coffee. Imagine what
it would be like to hold that delicious hot coffee. Enjoy the
smells and aroma. Make your visualization powerful; adding every
emotion and good thought you can have about how having that
coffee would make you feel. Then take a sip! Doesn't it taste
amazing?

To create, you also need to have the belief that you can
create. Do you believe that you can have this coffee? Do you
believe that it is within your reach? Do you think something or
someone would prevent you from having a coffee? Do you think
your cousin, the passionate "water only" person is going to
emerge from out of nowhere and going to throw it down the sink?

While this example of creation may seem a little silly, I am
using the coffee on purpose: most people can easily see
themselves having a cup of coffee. A coffee at Starbucks is
going to cost you a few dollars. At Mom's it is free and
probably comes with a bit of nagging, but hey, everything has
its cost! But in order to create, you need to have that belief
that you deserve and can obtain what you would like to create.
If there is any doubt in your mind about you not being able to
create it, then you need to work on that belief system before
you start to create.

That belief system is going to block your receiving what you so
desperately want. It is like you are placing the order with the
waiter for the coffee and then you are telling the waiter "no,
on second thought -- I don't want it, thanks anyway!" You need
to stop yourself from canceling your own order.

The next step is receiving what you are creating. You need to
be open to receive. Now some people are very comfortable giving
gifts, but when it comes to be their turn to receive, they
squirm and say "oh, you don't have to get me anything!" That's a
good example of someone who is blocking what they could receive.
You don't want to block the gifts of the universe. If you are
asking for something as a deliberate creator, then you don't
want to not receive it. That simply does not make sense. Yet
there are some people who do have problems with the receiving
part.

The final step is saying "thank you" for what you have been
given. It is very important to express gratitude. As a matter of
fact, an excellent way to increase your abundance in your life
if you feel any type of lack, is to begin to give thanks for
what you already have.

You will certainly feel a rush of positive energy and continue
to be blessed by the universe as you create more abundance in
your life. So if you have had success with the other steps,
don't forget to give thanks for what you have received as a
deliberate creator because we do not create alone. We create
with the help of the Universe.


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Winning Back Love

Can Your Break Up, Divorce or Partners Rejection be Prevented,
even though it seems like the world has ended?

Are you the only one trying?

How is it that some people take their lover back after an
affair,or unfaithfulness,or abuse?

Often, after a break up, people will try resolving the
situation by repeatedly telling their ex-partner how much they
love them. Some of us believe the old saying that "love conquers
all" and that our love for our partner is so self-evident, that
it should be enough to save the relationship. The fact of the
matter is that a loving relationship often won't work. Your love
for your ex-partner, vast as it may very well be, just ain't
enough - your ex-partner needs to love you too.

AND, they need to love you the right way.

If your partners love for you is "on some level", "I really
care for you", or some similar plutonic reason, then this is a
friend, not a lover.

Couples with this claim of love for each other, are either
already failing as partners, or have decided to settle-down and
this is "convenient" - for security reasons.

Love that involves attraction, desire, and excitement -
Passion, is the romantic love that originally brings people
together, keeps them together, and brings them back together
after a breakup. When two people have this type of love for each
other they will do everything they can to keep the relationship
together. This is real "I can't live without you" love.

Revitalising "I can't live without you" love in your ex-partner
is extremely difficult because you can't force these feelings in
your ex-partner. In fact, the harder you try to force it, the
more likely they are to run the other way. A more subtle
approach is required to recreate these feelings in your
ex-partner.

Often, your ex-partner is only "reacting" to how you are acting
and what you say.

After a break up, in our devastated state of mind, we sometimes
manage to convince ourselves that if we can make our ex feel
sorry, or guilty enough for us, they will want to get back
together. So, we may act sullen and depressed... wallowing in
our self pity. Generally, being pathetic.

Or, we may over-dramatise - beating our breast, tearing our
hair, rending our clothes, and behaving in ways we normally
wouldn't (embarrassing on reflection) - hoping that our
ex-partner will realize just how much pain we are going through
and how useless life is without them. All those things that made
us attractive to our ex in the beginning, we now pour all our
energy into making ourselves unattractive.

We turn to desperate and counter productive approaches like
this when we feel we have no solid plan, viable alternatives, or
available options. Logic never comes into play. We are hurt.

Be mindful though, these self-destructive acts negatively
impact upon your life and damage any chance of getting your ex
back. The more out-of-character you act, the more certain they
become that they made a HUGE mistake ever taking up with you in
the first place!

In order to have any chance of reconciliation, the first things
to do are, temper any irrational behavior and set aside self
pity. Refuse to sink into negative feelings and behaviors. As
comfortable as self pity is, it's not helping you get back with
your ex, achieve your goals, or create the life you want.

Considering there is no "get your ex back" night school, you
may wish to visit http://hubpages.com/hub/ex-back to gain a
little more insight, as to how you can go about Winning Back
Love.


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Tips For Manifesting Love Relationships Using the Law of Attraction

Love is absolutely essential in life. Love manifests happiness.
To manifest love relationships in your life, or to even overcome
the hatred and aloofness between relations, either between the
husband and the wife, or other relatives, friends, and
colleagues, and turn the negative vibrations of hatred or
aloofness into attraction, love, and respect, one needs to do
some introspection first.

The law of attraction works on the principles of like attracts
like. So, you need to first remove any negative thought patterns
that could be present in your mind. To attract love in your
life, you must first love yourself! By doing this, you are
essentially creating the vibrations of love in your life. These
vibrations are needed to attract like vibrations -- love.

Look for any good traits in you. Note them down. Remind
yourself often that you are a good and attractive person. Look
into the mirror and find a loving and attractive person's image
in it. Convince yourself that you are becoming more attractive
and confident person. Look for any negative traits and begin
replacing them with the good traits. Tell yourself constantly
and believe that you are a worthy person and are capable of
attracting the right person in your life who will love and
respect you. As you are convinced by these powerful loving
thoughts, your subconscious mind, which believes and acts upon
what you believe, begins the process of changing yourself!

The human mind, also known as the conscious mind, can influence
the subconscious mind to change situations! The subconscious
mind can be programmed to improve your image. You can easily
change yourself into becoming an attractive person and can help
you attract and hold love in your life. Like attracts like! This
principle of the law of attraction works on the subconscious
level. Properly programmed, this law can restructure your
electromagnetic patterns and turn you into an irresistible
person.

Think that you are constantly engulfed in a powerful bubble of
love and protection. Visualize that this bubble is vibrating
with your soul's vibrations. Also visualize that this bubble is
so powerful that it constantly cleanses your mind and body of
the negative traits, and has the power to attract only positive
vibrations of every kind. The law of attraction works
wonderfully when the subconscious mind is convinced. Do not use
forceful thoughts while you are convincing yourself. The thought
flow should be very smooth and you should observe extreme
calmness backed with complete faith in your conversation with
your subconscious mind.

Feel that you're constantly sending out good and positive
vibrations in all directions. Feel that these vibrations are
filled with love and compassion for all. Visualize that these
vibrations are engulfing every person that you meet. Faithfully
believe that the positive force that surrounds you makes you
irresistible to others.

To attract love in your life, write down the qualities that you
are seeking. Believe that the person already exists, and destiny
will bring you both together in due time, and you'll meet this
lovely person very soon. You'll be amazed one day that you have
attracted a person who possesses the exact qualities you
desired! Your subconscious mind has the ability to attract the
ideal person in your life if you let your subconscious mind know
what you desire. Do not doubt the subconscious mind's ability to
work wonders!

The method absolutely can manifest love relationships and can
attract the ideal person in your life who will love you
intensely and make you both very happy.


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